To be a Woman

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To be a woman,
you must have a vagina
which doesn’t belong to you
but to your man;
for his sexual pleasure.

To be a woman,
you should be submissive
and learn to be quiet
when your man speaks.
Even if you have an opinion,
it is best you keep it to yourself,
let him have the final and only say;
that’s the only way you can earn
his respect.
Else you’d be seen as rebellious;
men don’t like rebellious women,
such women remain single
or get divorced.

To be a woman,
you must be a good cook
cos men love good food.
You have to love the kitchen
for your man’s sake
if you want to keep him.
As a woman you’re a chef by default
and you must learn to master
the recipe of your man’s favorite meal.

To be a woman,
you must be domestic
when it comes to house chores
such as cleaning, doing the dishes,
laundry, babysitting etc.
cos your job is to take care of the home
while the man’s is to take care of the bills.

To be a woman,
you should learn not to dream too big
lest you intimidate the man
and sometimes it might be required of you
to give up on your dreams
so you can focus solely on helping your man realise his.
You’re a helpmeet created to assist the man;
this should be your utmost aspiration as a woman,
which is to be the neck to your man’s head.

To be a wo-man,
you have to be wooed by a man
and must kowtow to his every whims
at the expense of your being.

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17 thoughts on “To be a Woman

  1. Jeez Nduka, what kind of women are in your life? Or your environment? Or may I say your country? This is not the kind of woman that I meet daily, I have in my life, is in my country. I think your feminism is stretching a little hyperbolically.

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    • Vin, it might not be that pronounced like before but gender inequality still exists. It is sort of nuanced now, a bit padded and what have you. When a man gets married to a woman, the woman moves out of her former home into the man’s home. There’s a popular blogger in Nigeria called Linda Ikeji, who purchased a luxury mansion in the most elite area in Nigeria, Banana Island. She once wrote in a blog post that the house is actually for her family because when she eventually gets married she’d have to move out into her husband’s home. Irrespective whether she’s more wealthy than her husband, she would have to move out to be with him. How about the other way round? I also know of certain women who had to quit their jobs because they got married so they can focus on raising the kids and being a good housewife. Most men wont marry a woman, if she doesn’t know how to cook, yes, such men exist! Do you know in some cultures women are still circumcised till date? Because they think it’s not acceptable for women to enjoy sex, only the man or husband should. Recently the gender equality bill was rejected in the national assembly here in Nigeria and the dismissal raised some dust sort of. The long and short is that gender inequality is still an issue, though it’s not as bad as it used to be, that’s not to say we should sweep it under the carpet.

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      • Address this kind of thing different.

        When I married, I left my parents house. My wife left her parents house. We went over 500km away to establish our home. I work, and she works. We bring up our kid well, together.

        Now, tell me; if we weren’t shackled by culture, would you still be talking of such?

        Would you do what I did? It is about time men realized that they are the ones who can move this world forward, not cheap feminist movements and writings. Act, speak less.

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  2. Oh no… oh no… this is horrible.. lol
    Very horrible… Nduka you too are a horrible person..
    Seriously, darn well written… in my mind, sarcasm is what comes to my mind when I read this..
    Any man who can’t take a woman who dreams is crazy.. and the vagina… in this modern world… we should talk about this in private.. 😉

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  3. anonymous

    No blames because dats wat he belives in,he belives all he wants in a woman is just sex nd nothing else.very horrible person indeed, it shows d type of dude he is nd i guess dats how women are been treated in his place, u peeps should not blame him,because he was raised with dat mentality dat women must not have a say, sit down there nd watch women take over. u hv to change ya mentality nd ideology of thinking. mtcheeeew

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    • Hello, this piece is in no way supporting or advocating for the subjugation of women. On the contrary it’s a sarcastic piece, which aims at bringing to the front burner the ills of gender inequality. Thanks for reading, and for airing your views.

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  4. Rujeko

    Missed out on the comms here I see. Indeed the poem was deliberately exaggerated (very yesterday) but I think gender inequality is something that will always be there, like racism. But much progress has been made.
    Nduka, the use of etc. in your piece sounded quite unpoetic. Think of another word next time.

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    • Address this kind of thing different.

      When I married, I left my parents house. My wife left her parents house. We went over 500km away to establish our home. I work, and she works. We bring up our kid well, together.

      Now, tell me; if we weren’t shackled by culture, would you still be talking of such?

      Would you do what I did? It is about time men realized that they are the ones who can move this world forward, not cheap feminist movements and writings. Act, speak less.

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    • Yeah, some progress has been made, very true but more still needs to be done. While writing the piece I just wanted to be blunt, and not romanticize the situation. It’s more of an unpoetic poem, deliberately. Lol

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